What are your end-of-year traditions? Do you have any?
Something like reflecting on the past year and preparing for the new?
Decluttering your home, deep-cleaning your house or filing away documents that have been sitting around for months?
Until now I haven’t had any of these as part of my routines at the end of the year. However, this year, I’m starting a new tradition.
The magic of 13 wishes
The time between the end of December and early January has a long history that includes different rituals. There is a window of 12 holy days between Christmas Day and Dreikönigstag – which apparently in English is just called “Twelfth Day”. In Germany this time is called “between the years” but commonly it’s known as the “Twelve Days of Christmas”.
During this time, we celebrate “Rauhnächte”. While researching for this article, I found out that in English it’s referred to as Twelfthide, the season of Epiphany. Interesting!
Anyway, let me tell you about the “Rauhnächte”, based on what I learned online.
These Twelve days symbolise the twelve months of the coming year and are supposed to predict the coming year.
The word “Rauhnächte” literally translates to “smokey nights” or “wild/hairy nights”, depending on different sources. They start in the night from December 24th to 25th (actually 12am on the 25th) which is the first Rauhnacht.
So what do you do during those nights?
One of many rituals of the Rauhnächte is about making 13 wishes for yourself that you send out to the Universe. It’s a beautiful idea to focus on what you want for yourself and what you imagine the next year will bring for you.
Every night, for 12 nights, you take one of your wishes and you burn them. That way, the wish will be transformed and handed over to a higher power, like the Universe, which is now taking care of them.
The 13th wish is for you to take care of.
How does this work?
Ahead of December 24th, sit down with a piece of paper and write down what you wish for. But be aware that there are some rules that are important to follow when deciding on your wishes.
- The wishes should be about you and not anybody else.
- Stick to a concise statement and make it concrete.
- Use present tense language and write them as if this wish is already reality. So instead of saying “I want to have 20 new clients next year”, write “I’m working with 20 perfect new clients in my business.”
How do I decide on my 13 wishes?
This is where you want to take some time to reflect on your past year. Find a comfortable space, light a candle, put on some nice music, have a cup of tea ready…
Think about what went well and what didn’t over the past 12 months. What were you aiming for and what have you achieved?
Try to focus on what’s the highest priority on your list for the future. Come up with as many ideas as you want and narrow them down to the 13 that stand out to you the most.
The magical ritual
Once you’ve made your choice, write every wish on a small piece of paper. Fold the paper so you can no longer see what’s on it. Put the wishes in a bowl or a jar and every night, starting from Midnight on December 25th, take one piece of paper and set it on fire.
Please make sure you have a fireproof vessel at hand for this!
On January 5th, you’ll burn your 12th wish. After that, there should only be 1 piece of paper left in your jar or bowl. That one, you are allowed to open and read.
This wish is meant for you. It will be your responsibility to make this one come true, the universe will take care of the rest. It could be that this will be the hardest wish to take care of but don’t let this discourage you!
How do you feel about this tradition? Are you going to give this a try?
I’ve never done it before but over the past years, I’ve come to realise more and more that the Universe is really looking out for me. So doing this ritual is just another step in trusting this higher power around me and focusing on my goals.
Comment below or message me if you have any questions or would like connect over this ritual with me!
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Hi Anja,
This sounds like a beautiful tradition. Have you tried it yet? I am going to try it this year. I hope you have a wonderful experience! Sandi
Guelph, Ontario, CA
Hello Sandi, I’ve done this last year and am looking to repeat it this year. I love the whole process of reflection and getting clear on goals. I ahven’t checked which ones came true yet but we still have a couple of months left to the year so I don’t want to interfere 🙂
How did it go?
Are there any books in English on the 13 wishes and Rauhnächte in general?
Sorry Victor, I don’t know. I haven’t read any books about it.
does anything happen if u don’t complete the ritual? e.g only burning like 5 and throwing the rest away. Or is this a once you get in you can’t get out situation?
🙂
I’m pretty sure nothing is going to happen if you din’t finish the process. But why wouldn’t you if you went through the effort of creating your goals for the next year?
I just learned of this practice. Can I start it today? December 27th?
Sure, try it. I’d probably just do 11 wishes to still finish on time but that’s up to you 🙂
hello im sorry for disturbing you i have a question about 12 magical nights ritual! so i wrote my 13 wishes and i did everything i needed to and counted how many wishes i have left but today when i counted i realized i only have 12 wishes and my 13th wish is gone. i didnt write my wishes anywhere so im wondering what do i do? thank you for your answer❤️🧿
Hey Nika, I’m no expert on this but I’d say just make sure you have 1 wish left at the end to take care of yourself. The last night is from the 5th to the 6th, this is when you’d open the last wish. And next year, make sure you write them all down somewhere else as well. That will help you reviewing your year next time around.
Okh so I think I messed it up…. I saw this ritual on insta reel n I wasn’t really aware that we should only write wishes for ourself n not for others….but I wrote one for my father n the last wish that was left was the one I wrote for my father
Do you think the universe will grant my wishes??
Oh no Rim! I don’t know what the universe will do obviously. Those who were part of your wishes are lucky to have you look out for them though! Make sure next year to focus on yourself and let the universe help you instead of focussing on others. You can’t control what others do, even if the universe is helping them. You only have control over your own actions to opportunities and anything else that’s happening.
I have done this for the first time. My last wish is the hardest, but I will work on it. It is something I want to achieve but have been procrastinating over…
Well done Helen and good luck with the last wish. You’ve got a whole year to achieve it. Make sure you keep it somewhere you can see it to remember to keep working towards it!